14 Feb Being in Love with the BOSS
So, what are you planning to do this Val Day? I’m taking myself on a date. I’m going to make myself a nice lunch and I’m going to do an online pilates class I’ve been putting off and I’m going to be nice to myself all day. I’m also going to remind myself why I love the main player in my life… my boss. Me.
Today’s Full Flow Tip is to try the (life changing) Full Flow Fitness Love 20. There are only 3 steps and the Rules are simple.
1. Stand in front of a mirror or family member
2. Say 20 nice things about yourself TWICE a day.
3. Try to do this for 30 days EXACTLY.
Easy. Right? We ALL think ALL the time and we didn’t pick the record that got put in our record player. Our subconscious bias’s inform the majority of the decisions we make and so it’s worth taking the time to assess the things we subconsciously say to ourselves.
But I don’t like to brag……
I can feel some toes curling from here – this is terribly unAustralian I know but it’s all in the phrasing. If “I am a sexy, hot warrior (princess)” is embarrassing to you then try “I grow my warrior power every single day”.
Let the Cringe you feel be your friend. Seriously. Anything other than absolute certainty (and there’s always a something) show us we aren’t fully sure of this aspect of our self. The key is to keep rewording until it feels real.
But affirmations are so 80’s…
These aren’t really affirmations. “I love how my body serves me in life”. Or “I am friendly and caring” should be thought of as statements of facts – things you forgot to tell yourself recently. The idea is to keep going until it’s thrilling not weird and forces you to show yourself (The Boss) some daily gratitude.
A funny thing happens when we start to show self-love – we find that love in others reflected in the world around us and open ourselves up a little. For further inspo – read or listen to some of the articles and talks below and let’s get it on with the BOSS – why not?!
Some articles to read
A Self talk and sports performance Meta-Analysis
Mind Matter: Cognitive and Physical effects of aging self-stereotypes
The effects of Motivational vs instructional self talk on on improving motor performance
Some TED talks
Positive SElf talk – common thinking errors
Other Papers
https://web.psy.otago.ac.nz/pdfs/Ted’s%20PDF’s/2002ChiDev.pdf
https://www.csee.umbc.edu/courses/graduate/671/fall12/resources/searle_2002.pdf
http://pagi.wikidot.com/wenger-social-theory-learning
http://people.psych.ucsb.edu/sherman/david/publications–david-sherman/shermancompass2013.pdf
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1038/oby.2005.212/full
http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1207/s15324834basp1503_3
http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.1030.8953&rep=rep1&type=pdf